My son wont get help for his addiction?

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I myself am an addict. I took so long to tell my parents about it. I'm not sure if you can take your son into detox at a hospital that has a rehab connected to it or not but it'll take time. Like the person above said, when a family member is sick in their addiction, the whole family becomes sick. It might get to the point where you have to wait until he realizes his life is becoming very unmanageable. As for you, you could help yourself out by going to a substance abuse councilor. My parents do this so that they can understand drug addiction and be able to talk about it to someone who's got a profession in the field. I hope this helps.